When my husband’s mother was dying she said something extremely profound and he didn’t tell me this until four years after her death. Our marriage was failing and I was elsewhere with subordinate while he was back home 6000 miles away saying goodbye to her with my daughter.
She said to him. Y, Please love her and be patient, she has such a beautiful heart and soul that is covered in scars. She doesn’t know how to love or accept love. She will always be drawn to people who will use and abuse her because that is all she has ever known. Now that her mother has passed she will seek out someone to take her place and continue the destruction of her worth. Scary right?? She knew I would cave into an affair and I did 4 months after my mother died. My mother in law died 8 months after my mother so she already knew or predicted that I would cheat. The sad thing is he knew also. He knew for 5 years that the meetings etc were all bullshit.
You think they don’t know?
You think you are careful?
Well I thought I was so clever, but I wasn’t.
My grandmother asked me before I married my husband one question.
Does he love you more than you love him??
I said yes.
She said good then your marriage will last.
I asked her why.
She said when a man loves a woman he will walk through fire to get to her and be with her no matter what and nothing will stop him.
A woman can grow to love a man but if a man does not truly love you, he never will.
My father loved my mother more than she loved him and even after 5 years of being a widower, he still wears his wedding ring.
2008-04-21 @ 15:08